“Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the LORD.”
Proverbs 16:20 (ESV)
Last night, my daughter Caroline and I were privileged to attend a White Bible ceremony for our dear friend Kelsey who is getting married in August. This beautiful tradition was a new one for us and when it was over Caroline told me that she wanted to have a ceremony like it when she gets married. Of course, that will be YEARS away but when the occasion occurs, a White Bible ceremony definitely will be in our plans.
If you’re not familiar with this ceremony, it is a small gathering of a bride and a group of ladies who belong to her family and circle of friends. Different people light each of seven candles signifying an area of married life and explain what their candle represents:
White – faithfulness
Red – romance
Pink – sentimental days
Yellow – happy days
Blue – sad days
Brown – dark days
Each of the descriptions includes a passage of Scripture, and the ceremony is focused on remembering that God’s word is “a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path” (Psalm 119:105) . Someone then presents a white Bible to the bride and the ceremony closes with the group forming a circle around the bride and praying for her upcoming marriage.
This ceremony encapsulates Proverbs 16:20 because it illustrates a bride who seeks wisdom from God’s Word before her marriage. She is looking to the Bible for instruction and placing her faith in the Lord. The Bible she receives is meant to be carried down the aisle or placed on display at the wedding and then displayed in her home so that she will always remember that upon which her faith is placed.
Heeding God’s word is not just wise before a marriage, but it is profitable during every season of our lives. How often do you consider God’s word before making a big decision? We may not need candles to represent each aspect of our decisions, but we do need God’s word as our guide. The person who heeds what God says is blessed: “But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him” (Jeremiah 17:7, NIV).
Don’t always trust your own “wisdom.” Proverbs 16:25 makes it clear that when we think we know what is best, it will not end well. Instead, find your blessing by seeking and heeding God’s wisdom, or as Proverbs 19:8 puts it, loving life: “The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.” (NIV)