“An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.”
Proverbs 31:10-12 (ESV)
The Wife of Noble Character, often called simply the Proverbs 31 woman, is described in detail in Proverbs 31:10-31. Reading her “resume” can make the best of wives weep in despair because this woman is truly perfect. She is the most industrious woman about which I’ve ever read, and yet, I find comfort in identifying with her purpose: to support and care for her husband, children, friends and the needy.
All of the things she does stem from her noble character, which is aptly described in verses 10-12. I love the idea that her godly character makes her a valuable treasure and trustworthy to her husband. Trust is the foundation upon which any relationship is built and it is the greatest gift we can give to each other.
Because she is trustworthy, the excellent wife does her husband good, and not harm. Wives, can you say this about yourself? How can we do our husbands good?
We can pray for them. Philippians 1:9-11 is a beautiful prayer to lift up on behalf of our husbands.
We can honor and respect them. Ephesians 5:33 explains that husbands are to love their wives and wives are to respect their husbands. A great book on this issue is Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
We can trust them. When wives submit to their husbands as outlined in Ephesians 5:22-24, they are showing trust in their husbands.
Being an excellent wife is a high calling, and it is not easy; however, the rewards it brings are peace (Proverbs 31:25) and praise (Proverbs 31:30-31). When all is said and done, I think all wives would love to hear the final words of Proverbs 31 spoken about them:
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.” (ESV)