“Unfailing love and faithfulness protect the king; his throne is made secure through love.”
Proverbs 20:28 (NLT)
Solomon most likely wrote this proverb with the idea of secure kingship in mind, but when I first saw this verse it made me think of the role of a husband in the household.
In a family, the husband is the head of the house, making it his kingdom, so to speak. According to Proverbs 20:28, this leadership role is made secure when the leader is loving and faithful.
It’s like any business. Most employees agree that the atmosphere created in the office comes from the top down. If management is kind and gracious, the rest of the office often follows suit. On the other hand, if management is harsh and selfish, that attitude can continue throughout the company, and even worse, can cause a revolt by the employees.
Our family structures can be like an office staff or a kingdom in that they all need a leader and followers. The Lord calls the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), and also not to exasperate his children but rather to teach them by pointing them to God (Ephesians 6:4). The leader may be in charge, but notice these verses show that life is not all about him. Husbands and fathers have a tough job, and it requires Christlikeness. By their love and faithfulness, their kingdoms are made and kept secure.
As a wife, I find it easier to submit to my husband when he treats me lovingly and faithfully places my interests above his own. When those things are in place, it is easy for me to follow him, even to the ends of the earth.
Next week, on September 25, my husband Bert and I will celebrate 13 years of marriage. Aside from accepting Christ as my Savior, marrying Bert is the best decision I have ever made. He has been my faithful husband and loving friend, helping me through hard times and cheering me on in good times. He has faithfully prayed for me and treated me with respect (1 Peter 3:7). By his love and faithfulness, he is a secure “king” in our home.